You know oftentimes I catch myself saying to my kids, “do you want to be a leader or a follower”? Well, we all want to see our children exceed their wildest expectations and rise to the top in everything they do right? I mean who wouldn’t want to see our kids get into Harvard with a GPA of over 4. I know that I want to see my children succeed and not fail. Although, let’s get one thing straight…we all fail at times and that’s ok. Get yourself back up and dust yourself off and move on. As I was having a conversation with my kids the other day about how some kids can be so cruel and others get made fun of on a daily basis, I was asking them how they would feel. It breaks my heart to know that some children just get picked on daily and what ends up happening is the other children that think they are “cool” are influenced by them and it changes their whole personality and demeanor. But let’s think of something…where did that one mean child learn that it is ok to be so cruel? I’m not going to sit here and blame the parents because children do have a mind of their own, but I do know one thing… children learn what they live! Children need the guidance to realize that just because one may be different or not technically “fit in”, it is NOT ok to just be a bully. So make sure you are talking with your kids and teaching them that being a bully is NOT ok. Anyway, so this leads me to this. We all have someone that influences us whether we are a child or an adult. Children look up to older siblings, parents, a family member, a friend, someone from church, or maybe even a family friend. We have to be prepared that someone may always be paying attention to what we are doing. In this crazy world that we live in today, we really need to be on top of who are children are influenced by because those are the influencers that our children shouldn’t be influenced by. Are you still following me?
Parenting is the hardest job by far whether people agree with me on this one or not. Until you are standing in a parents shoes…. there’s nothing that anyone can say different.
The saying goes “children learn what they live” very true indeed.
You teach them they way and pave the path but as they grow…. the path broadens and they choose their own way. So give them the foundation they will always remember because that is what will make a difference.
Plant the seed and watch them bloom